Throwing Negs is so 2005

Dating tip 11: Boys, you all need to quit with the “throwing negs.”  That’s so 2005. Quit insulting girls. Stop trying to show how funny you are by mocking us.  Try it boys, try talking to a girl the way you’d talk to a hot female boss. Respectful.  Don’t fight  with me like I’m your…

Listen Worthy Song: Ruin by Cat Power

I’ve been to Saudi Arabia, Dhaka, Calcutta Soweto, Mozambique, Istanbul, Rio, Rome Argentina, Chile, Mexico, Taiwan, Great Britain Belfast, to the desert, Spain, Tokio Some little bitty island in the middle of the Pacific All the way back home, to my town . . . Bitching, complaining when some people who ain’t got shit to…

My Pheromone Party Experience

Author holds her favorite “enchilada” shirt. Photo by Anna Cox  Escape the Bubble: Head to a Pheromone Party Yes, yes, and yes. It’s like that, but no. So what’s a pheromone party? Short answer: you sleep in a clean shirt for 3 nights in a row, bring it to a party in a bag, and…

2012 Year of the Nice Guy

Dating tip 10: Ask out nice guys.  Quit pouting to yourself, “Nobody like me.” As my mom would say,   ”That’s a lie from the devil.”  Plenty of guys like you.  You are busy ignoring them for hot guys who, in turn, ignore you.  After all, 2012 is year of the nice guy. It is our…

Influencer: George Orwell

George Orwell’s 5 Rules for Effective Writing Written by Editor in Chief, Pick The Brain In our society, the study of language and literature is the domain of poets, novelists, and literary critics. Language is considered a decorative art, fit for entertainment and culture, but practically useless in comparison to the concrete sciences. Just look…

How to Calculate Your Hot Ratio

This is not the same as the number of folks you have sex with. This is the number of folks you’d consider moving to Africa for, or Santa Clarita Valley.  Based on looks alone, before they open their mouths. I’ve done the math. I shop way out of my league. Way. Well, they think so.…

Condom Use Shows Self-Respect

Dating tip 9 — For some reason, many South Bay men don’t feel the need to wear a condom.  Maybe it’s their Adonis-like DNA or their zip code that gives them this impervious notion to go at it Adam & Eve style (rawdog). While sex without a condom may be fun, it isn’t funny. Condom…